Live More in Your Life and Less in Your Thoughts
The easier path to less stress and greater peace of mind
After years of working in relationship and small business communications, I’ve come across a little known way to help people reduce stress and anxious thoughts without the need for techniques or strategies or having to do anything extra.
Once people see they can have a different relationship with their thoughts, and tap into the benefits of a quieter state of mind, they never go back to the stress and busyness of the past.
Understanding the way we tick
I ‘nudge’ people to have a different conversation with themselves. Yes, to have some space to talk through what they want to achieve, change or resolve, but more to share about a new understanding into the very nature of thought and how we create our experience.
When people start to see life from this different perspective, it helps transform how they live in all areas of their life as they find themselves living, working and playing differently!
Ever played pooh sticks …?
Hello…I’m Tamsin Butters and I set up nudgeme some 20 years ago as a way to describe my brand of life and small business coaching.
Quick bit of background, for many people (including myself …) I’d found that the very terms “life coaching” or “small business coaching” conjured up either the image of someone chasing round a tennis court shouting instructions, or providing therapy or counselling to deal with a specific problem or situation. Almost as if it only applies to individuals who are suffering from a condition, which needs ‘fixing’ in some way, which couldn’t be further from the truth.
Then I saw a video clip of a leading success coach, Michael Neill, when he introduced the analogy of playing Pooh Sticks, where two sticks are dropped over a bridge into a river to see which one comes out first. He made the simple comment that if one of the sticks gets held up, it didn’t require therapy, just a helpful nudge to set it on its way, and that’s the moment in my mind the idea of nudgeme was born.
A little about me – 10 quick snapshots
1 Developed the services offered by nudgeme after over 35 years’ experience of facilitating groups, individuals, businesses and organisations across the whole spectrum of policy development, market research, project development and all aspects of marketing communications.
2 Partner in new style policy consultancy facilitating qualitative research with 100s of people to influence new thinking on enterprise, training, education, employment & HR policies so new approaches could be implemented to tackle old problems. Worked with government, public, private & voluntary sector organisations, as well as smaller companies specialising in start up & business growth.
3 Wrote regular column in national UK newspaper.
4 Frustrated with the limitations of consultancy, set up agency specialising in marketing communications in same field, regularly employing lovely team of freelancers, to work on both on and off line communications strategies.
5 One of the best times in my career was when I was working 16hr days, earning £100 per week doing national and international PR for Sport Aid, the Run the World project to raise funds for famine relief in Africa on behalf of Bob Geldof’s Band Aid & UNICEF.
6 Throughout my work, I’ve researched many different approaches to personal development and communications, and have always been fascinated in continually learning and understanding what makes people tick. So, I became a full time life and small business coach, after qualifying as a Certified Business Practioner of NLP through Robert Dilts’ NLP University. At the time, NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) offered a systematic approach and the recognised skills for business and life coaching.
7 I then got certified in Robbins-Madanes Coach Training in Strategic Intervention (SI). Created by Tony Robbins in partnership with Cloe Madanes. Strategic Intervention draws on a variety of disciplines (including Ericksonian therapy, Human Needs Psychology, organisational psychology, neurolinguistics and psychology of influence) geared to helping people take action in a strategic way and resolve internal conflicts.
8 Moved back permanently to London in 2012 after spending part of the previous ten years living in Cape Town having achieved my dream of having my own place in the sun. Now enjoying living on my houseboat on the River Thames, but will always return to my ‘second’ home, courtesy of having a location independent business, which gives me the freedom to travel! So, I’m especially interested in helping others have a different conversation to give them greater freedom and independence, whilst working in a job or business they love.
9 These days, my work is not about techniques and strategies, but more about helping people to have a completely different relationship with their thoughts and a new understanding of how that creates our experience. Once people also see they have an innate wisdom, wellbeing and resilience they can rely on, it not only transforms the way they live and work, but gives them a freedom and peace of mind they never thought possible.
10 Two final snippets – I’ve got a twin sister and my name Tamsin is short for Thomasina, but sssh…keep it to yourself!